Do we focus only on the traits that make our enemies so unlikable?

Its a one liner question that struck me today and hit me on the face.Most of the time its what we always think about our enemies or the people who hurt us, we think and just see the negative side of their being. Its a realization I have today that even though these people may hurt us but they also have good points and they also have positive attitudes. Its hard to see the positive qualities of people who we have decided to associate with negative things. But I have tried it and have appreciated the good side despite the bad feeling. Maybe God has a way of moving in our lives that we learn from people who hurt us. Its a painful experience but its something that makes us grow and look things in a new perspective.